Years ago you could make assumptions about someone’s husband or wife. If a woman said she was married, you could assume it was to a man with little to no trouble. If a man said he was married, you could assume it was to a woman with little to no trouble also. Now, making such assumptions is becoming more of an issue, especially in business.
While being a regular at a local coffee shop for a few weeks, I made friends with the barista’s and gotten to know them a bit. While I was there a man came in and was talking to one of the women behind the counter. He must have saw a wedding ring because without prompting he said “Well, what does your husband think about that?” To which she responded “My wife thinks…” The man clearly felt like an idiot. The light and hearty chatter that prompted him to ask the question quickly faded.
This awkward moment brought to you by making assumptions.
I’ve written quite a bit about the myriad of reasons why you shouldn’t make assumptions in business. The encounter I highlighted above happens often. Fortunately, the man who said this was by himself. Imagine if this had happened when he was with a prospective client? Even worse if that prospective client was LGBT and he didn’t know it. Inaccurate assumptions in this case would equal a lost sale.
Making assumptions on the gender of one’s spouse wasn’t something you had to think too much about in the past. But now, it is something you should be mindful of. If you want to do business with the LGBT community, these types of scenarios cannot happen to you. You have control over that by simply being educated on the issues.
Here are a variety of links to previous blog posts that highlight business etiquette and phrases you should avoid saying to avoid a scene like the above scenario.
- If I’m not lesbianed you can’t be transgendered…
- In a business setting: is it okay to ask intimate details?
- 3 reasons you should never say homosexual. ever.
- Why don’t you have a picture of your wife on your desk?
- Don’t assume that because your co-worker is gay that they have ‘gaydar’
- There’s no such thing as the ‘gay lifestyle’
- But you don’t look gay…
- Are you saying “That’s so gay?” Stop.
Enjoy and let me know what you think! What expressions have you heard that would fall into the category of inappropriate words or phrases to avoid? Leave a comment below.