Here’s what happened:
I was picking up a to-go order from Chilli’s. My wife and children were in the car as I was running in quick. As I went into the bar to pick up the order, I found a woman sitting by herself at the bar. There was a lone man on the other side of the bar and an older couple enjoying their lunch at a booth. Within a couple of seconds of seeing this woman sitting there I was trying to figure out where she worked. She had a uniform on that’s consistent with an auto parts store. I didn’t think much of it and turned my attention to ESPN’s Sport Center (which I have really no interest in watching) which was on the TV.
Moments later a second woman came out of the bathroom wearing a mechanics suit. I immediately made the connection that the women at the bar must indeed work together. When the second woman had a seat at the bar, they immediately proceeded to engage in some over the top PDA (public display of affection).
I am not a fan of PDA across the board, whether you are a lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or straight. I prefer not to see it. And this is where I make my point. As an advocate for the LGBT community I take it as a personal responsibility to provide a positive portrait of who same sex couples are. The purpose of my blog and my life’s mission is to educate people about the LGBT community. Our community is not made up of a bunch of people who fit stereotypes, we are like everybody else living their lives, oftentimes quietly in the background. As a mother of two small children, I can tell you that my life is no different than any other parent who has two small children; it’s chaotic and not that exciting all at the same time.
So when a lesbian couple are inappropriately groping each other in a Chilli’s bar, what type of message is that sending to the patrons around them? I couldn’t believe their behavior and walked away. If I am turning away from the way they are acting, I can’t help but wonder what the older couple on the other side of the bar was thinking. Did the behavior of these two women reinforce that couples current belief system about LGBT people?
What do you think? Do you think PDA helps or hurts the cause? And do we always have to be ‘role models’ for the community? Share your thoughts in the comments section below.