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LGBT Questions from a Friend…

I have a friend who has inspired me to start this blog based on questions she brought to me. She asked me LGBT (lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender) related questions on a fairly regular basis. She knew that she can ask the sensitive questions she needed to ask without fear of me getting upset because she doesn’t know the right terminology or how to be politically correct. I find this is something many straight allies struggle with. They are curious by nature and want to know the best way to phrase something but don’t know who to ask. Oftentimes they’re afraid to speak up because they don’t want to be laughed at, or worse fear you will judge them.

But I am here to say – it is okay to ask questions. How can we as a society grow and learn together if we don’t afford the opportunity for people to ask the tough questions? I’ve even had LGBT related questions come from LGBT people within the community regarding topics they aren’t too familiar with. Again, it’s okay to ask questions. I’ve made it part of my every day to make sure that those around me know that they can ask me anything they would like regardless of how crazy they think it may sound.

So my call to action is for you to e-mail me your questions… Hit me with anything LGBT related. I’m happy to feature your question in a future blog post. You can ask the question in the comments below OR send me an e-mail at social[at]!

About Jenn T. Grace

Jenn T. Grace (she/her/hers) is an award-winning author and founder and CEO of Publish Your Purpose (PYP), the acclaimed hybrid publisher of non-fiction books. Jenn has published 100+ books written by thought leaders, visionaries, and entrepreneurs who are striving to make a difference. Jenn T. Grace’s work elevates and amplifies the voices of others—especially marginalized groups who are regularly excluded from traditional publishing.

2 comments to " LGBT Questions from a Friend… "

  • Hi Jenn,

    This is absolute perfect timing! I own/operate 925HIRE, a staffing firm committed to equal workplace representation for the LGBT Community. We contract with companies that are progressive in their diversity and inclusion programs seeking to include the LGBT Professional community as active contributors in the growth and diversification of their organization. With that being said, I was reading a trade industry article online and came across a question from another recruiter, I thought the question would spark a robust yet healthy dialogue. I would love to get your thoughts and that of your readers, read on….

    Dear Staffing: Dude Dressed Like A Lady, Now What?!
    = = = = =

    “I never, I repeat, NEVER thought that I would come across this issue in all my years of staffing but here I am and I haven’t the slightest what to do about it. I always told myself that it would not make a difference but now I am not so sure.

    Yesterday I had an interview scheduled with Jasmine Delaney (name changed for anonymity). I had spoken to Jasmine on the phone and received her resume. I explained that I had a few openings in mind but the next step in this process was to have her come in to interview and get set up with the paperwork, that way I can begin to send her to clerical assignments that would best fit her experience.

    She came in but she was a he dressed like a she. Silence. Awkward smile, then I pulled it together and treated her like an other applicant.

    I think I held the interview with professionalism. We went through the typing test and personality test to have in the system. The employers I had in mind required it. I have some pretty laid back clients, some great people with a wonderful work environment but how do I know where Jasmine will fit in? I have no client that I know of who openly accepts transgender applicants.

    There is no chance of Jasmine passing as a natural female. None.

    I don’t want to discriminate but I don’t have any clients who wouldn’t laugh me out and call me up to ask me if this wasn’t a practical joke. At first I was thinking Jasmine would make a great internal receptionist but I know I would loose my job if I were to even suggest it now. What do I do? Where or how do I place a qualified office professional that happens to be transgender?

    I’m at a complete loss. Have you ever heard of this and how staffing companies handle it? Are there transgender specific staffing agencies?

    I asked at work and my boss may not be the best person to ask, her answer was beyond wrong.

    Please help,

    Wanting to do the right thing.”

    • Hi Tonie,

      Congratulations on your company 925Hire, you are doing an amazing and much needed thing for the LGBT Community! This is a great question and I will answer it in next Tuesday’s post of LGBT Questions from a Friend…

      I am looking forward to tackling the question you posed. Happy Hiring!

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